We engage in loving relationships and abusive ones too!

When you know someone is gay don’t jump straight to the sex bit

Could it be because my generation is still in a different mindset to the youth of today where its okay to be gay? Could it be that era we grew up in has taught gratis shaadi kampanjkod us to think of us as deviant, odd, queer?

I am not deviant, I human. I have feelings like any other human being on the planet. We hurt, we bleed, we cry, we laugh, we rejoice, we feel sad, happy, excited, hopeful. We can now get married and have children, we can also experience any other feeling that is known to man, we experience just as heterosexuals do. Why is this such a strange concept for society to take in? Or should I say my generation? Did my friend not see this? This part of her friend? Did she only see two women engaging in sex and that is what caused her to feel ill? Yes of course that happens but it is not who and what we are. We are not defined by who we have sex with. We, my community is so much more than that. We are people, no different from anyone else with regard to trying to find and make our way in life.

Being gay is NOT about having sex with someone of the same gender

So the point of this blogg. See the person for who they are, don’t define them by their sexual encounters. Yes we identify as gay due to our sexual orientation but we are not all about the sex. Gosh if I was having as much sex as you think I would be even more exhausted. …. Now I’m off to get some more ‘lipshit’, (a phrase now coined by me and fervently being used by the staff in Coco Television) , because I obviously laugh far too much and……

Have you ever had an argument with your loved one and suddenly she announces “I’m leaving!” Of course you have. You may even be the one who has said it. Two words. That’s all they are but these two very simple words can hammer home such an impact to the argument that it could stop you dead in your tracks. UNLESS………..its used in every argument. What happens then? Well those two words become so watered down that they hold little to no effect whatsoever. Or do they.

I had lunch with a dear friend and he mentioned a recent dinner party that he had attended with friends and the drama that unfolded that night at the dinner party was of epic proportions!! The woman who created the drama had had an argument with her lover (all very audible to the other guests)and decided that she ‘was leaving’. It happens, we have all been there. What wasn’t expected was for the other five people attending the dinner party that she was ‘leaving’ them too. The women left the dinner party not once but 5 times! The first exist would have left Audrey Hepburn in a daze. Her coat was put on, her handbag swung firmly in place on her arm, her head cocked to one side and the back of her hand put to her forehead (I’m sure she was checking to see if she was running a fever) and off she went, storming out of the room, everyone waiting with bated breath for the inevitable. BUT. alas there was no slamming of the door. What happened? Had she realised the error of her ways? had she quickly thought “better to slip out quietly because I have just made an absolute arse of myself”? NO. You get the picture. So, I’m sure your wondering just as I was what actually was the end result of this award winning performance(S) Well, once she had reentered the room on what was to be the fifth and final entrance and exist (because she had addressed all members of the party) she stayed for coffee and dessert! Homemade salted caramel ice cream and brownie. Sure who could resist that? You really couldn’t blame the girl for not actually leaving now could you.