I tried the online dating thing but it was just so much of the same thing

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”

From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.

Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.

However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.

My current relationship is ideal in that we only see each other twice, maybe 3 times a month and the rest of the time I’m a crazy cat lady

If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.

Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

IRL a heck of a lot of women are preferring to be single now too, they’ve also found it simplify’s life a great deal.

Yep! Guys whose profiles was them shirtless, standing somewhere in Bali with beer in hand, holding up a fish and the lists of interests were just as generic. I wasn’t looking for Mr 10 but I was looking for someone who enjoyed painting, astronomy, watching history documentaries, cats and being cooked for, who could have in depth discussions about art, science, history, literature, comic books, and world issues. I gave up and ended up meeting Mister Zipporah down the track.

When a man starts telling me how psycho his ex is/was it’s a major red flag for me. I always give the ex the benefit of the doubt and assume they are “psycho” because of the man’s dysfunctional behaviour – ie, cheating, lying, gaslighting, running hot and cold, ghosting etc etc. In all cases so far Makedonia-naiset where I’ve dated a man with a “psycho” ex this assumption has proven to be true.

but if these women want to attract a decent man, sounding angry and bitter is not going to achieve that.

I don’t think most people want a “decent” partner: their expectations are for an ideal partner that rarely gets realised, because they aren’t the ideal partner in the expectation of someone else. It’s unfortunate that most of us are competing for the best, when in reality the best are in short supply and tend to favour each other. It’s kind of like trying to live the fantasy of many Disney fairytales: there can only ever be a few princesses and princes. However, it’s difficult to counter such an entrenched expectation and bring it down to earth, because none of us really want to challenge our dreams and expectations. Not surprising that never reaching one’s dream (even if it is unrealistic fantasy) is frustrating and can lead to bitterness and anger.